An ordinary American middle-aged couple set out for a six month world wide walkabout, attempting to ignore their responsibilities for the first time in their lives...
Friday, June 24, 2011
Home again ...
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." Marcel Proust
A few weeks early, we found ourselves traveling home to help Pat's family care for his mom, who was diagnosed with a brain mass and needed surgery and rehab care. Bernice is an amazing 90 year old mom, grandmother and great-grandmother who came through her surgery well and is receiving wonderful rehab care in Grand Rapids, Michigan. We are so grateful for the time we were able to spend with her, and to be honest we must have been ready to come home because we hadn't yet planned our Galapagos Islands adventure. It will have to wait for another time ...
So we've been thinking about how to put these five months in perspective, to sort through the images, experiences and relationships we have had so that we won't forget or lose sight of things. Which called to mind Proust's quote ... perhaps the best thing that happened over the past six months is that we have begun to look at the world differently. Whether in northern India seeing displaced Tibetans struggle to save their language and culture, or in Africa as children and their families struggle with poverty and illness and educational barriers but still retain their smiles and joyful dispositions, or in South America as committed and tireless citizens work to provide better lives for their communities, we see ourselves as connected and involved. We have been so blessed to have walked a while with these people, and we will hold them in our hearts forever.
We aren't really so different after all. Our countries look different, we look different, our language and customs and faiths may be different, but we all seek peace and joy in our lives, and we all love our children. In Grand Rapids, Michigan, Bernice was surrounded by her children and grandchildren as she faced this surgery, and a few days later welcomed her 15th great grandchild, Brady Haarman, into the family. And in so many parts of the world, generations work and live together in a life long struggle to thrive amid so many obstacles. Family, and the importance of connections between people, are the same the world over. If we understand that, how can we not live in peace?
So with these "new eyes", here are a few things we hope to see as we return to our lives in America:
- More possibility than worry in every day.
- Opportunities to simplify our life, so that we will have more to share with people in other parts of the world who ask for so little, but can really use the help.
- Valuing the connections that have made our life so meaningful by taking more time with friends.
- Continuing to trust that our adult children, who survived (possibly even thrived?) without us for six months don't need for us to waste energy worrying about them.
- Taking care of our bodies, and remembering that the carbs we crave don't have feelings and won't be hurt if we refuse to eat them. We have both lost about 25 pounds with eating less and walking several miles a day, and we feel better than we have in many years.
- Chances to thank our employers, patients and coworkers for allowing us to go "walkabout", because now we understand how really badly we needed the break.
- Ways to challenge, each and every day, the message brought to the American people that we are better off not caring about the world around us and isolating ourselves and our vast wealth rather than sharing our concern, compassion and abundance.
- Time to appreciate each other and the relationship we have together. After six months, it's nice to realize that we are both a bit sad to have to share each other with others again, and that we never had a day where we were sick and tired of each other's company. It is a wonderful thing to be married to your very best friend.
Who knows, maybe "walkabout" is also in how you see it. Maybe every day, when worry and anxiety and feeling overwhelmed and frustrated and over responsible start to creep up, we'll be able to sit back, take a deep breath, close our eyes and say "for the next five minutes I'm going walkabout to Zanzibar ..."
The Sacred Valley of the Incas ...
So the taxi arrived, and Pat said "Como se llama?", and the guy answers "My name is Achilles". What? Are you kidding me, as in the weak ankled Achilles? Off we went, with me muttering "This is not good". We drove off of the highway, through farm roads more stone than dirt, and about an hour into the drive Achilles pulled over and said "It'll be just a minute while I change the flat tire."
Pat didn't bother to tell me that the spare was not in the best condition, and I didn't bother to ask what we would do if we got another flat.
Achilles got us through the Sacred Valley where we saw a natural salt farm and some of the most spectacular mountains, valleys and Incan ruins
of our trip. We made the bus in time ...
Saturday, June 4, 2011
Cuzco and Macchu Pichu ...
We took the train from just outside of Cuzco to the city of Agua Caliente, at the entrance to the Macchu Pichu national park area. From there it is a 2 hour hike up the mountain to the "lost city of the Incas". It is amazing to see the Incan architecture and landscaping, with brilliant green grass under blue Peruvian skies. A beautiful walk there and back, and then took the train back to Cuzco.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Hola, Chimbote!
A few minutes later, a van pulled in and we loaded into it. The guy driving introduced himself as "Juan" and said he was in a hurry to get to mass; when we pulled into the church parking lot, he jumped out of the van in his full priestly garb and ran into the church to lead the service. It would prove to be a fitting welcome to the ways in which people working in Chimbote are always multitasking and collaborating to serve the people of this impoverished community.
Our Host Family ...
Father Jack Davis, an ordinary man doing extraordinary things ...
Dignity, respect, love and service ...
Sister Juanita and the Hospicio Team ...
The Hospice Team ...
When Deb and I first walked from the dusty street and through the gate into this hospice facility, we both felt the peace, tranquility, and comfort of the surroundings. A beautiful green space, flowers viewed from every patient room, a vegetable garden in back to provide nourishment, and many birds made it ideal for patients and families. The staff were welcoming, interested, caring, fun, and worked well together as a team. We split our time equally between inpatient and home visits. We also had the pleasure of working directly with Dr. Cinthia Bocanegra, the hospice physician. Cinthia was knowledgable, caring, interested in new ideas, and understanding in her explanations despite the language barrier.
Home visit with a sweet seƱora ...
It's hard to imagine how attached you can get to patients, families, and staff in just 2 weeks, but we did. Elizabeta was a 7 year old admitted with terminal lung cancer. Her young mother was in the room with her other child, a 16 day old infant, when we first met. Elizabeta had been diagnosed at age 2, and now was terminal after all treatments were not effective. Deb held the infant as we explained the situation to Mom and recommended pain medication for comfort. We revisited several times over the next two days meeting extended family and friends. Elizabeta was comfortable and asleep when she died on the second day, her little hand resting on the open bible and her head covered with a bright Peruvian hat.
Pedro and Juan ...
Juan had been at hospice for some time with pulmonary fibrosis. Unfortunately, his condition declined as expected and all appropriate treatments for his disease were being tried. We asked him about his goals and he stated he wanted to be comfortable and not struggle to breathe. We taught the staff about the use of morphine for shortness of breath and helped them transition and accept his wishes that he not go back to the hospital. When we were leaving he had declined further but thanked us for making him more comfortable and tranquil.
Roseta ...
This was true throughout our stay in Chimbote. The people we met were poor, but rich in love, spirit, and reaching out to us. A memory and lesson that will stay with us always.
Sister Peggy's return to Chimbote ...
A sweet little boy named Bryan ...
Andreas ...
"Mi hermana Peruana" ... my Peruvian sister ...
Sunday, May 22, 2011
A week in Bolivia ...
But first, it was our close friends, Drs. Brooks Donald and Karen MacKenzie who introduced us to Bolivia. With their daughter Shannon, they have been involved with Mano a Mano for the past 9 years and told us their stories of the wonderful people, culture, and country. We gave a donation to a school they were helping build and it was our chance to see firsthand what they had been describing. Brooks sent a letter of introduction for us to Jose (perhaps overstating our importance), and suggesting a bunch of things we may want to do. For sure, we did receive the royal treatment, but realized that they treated all of their visitors and guests with the same gracious hospitality.
Bolivia by bus ...
Minnesota healthcare professionals share their knowledge and friendship ...
Women prepare for their community's clinic dedication ...
Mano a Mano ...
Dr. Jose Velasquez, a dreamer and a doer ...
As the week went on and we had further opportunities to meet more of the people at Mano a Mano, both Deb and I felt fortunate to meet such a dedicated group .....we found them all to be first class, genuine, value driven, mission focused, transparent, hard working,organized, and efficient. But most of all we liked them as people, and their dreams and plans have touched thousands of lives in Bolivia and the US. For additional info check out their website at manoamanobolivia.org
El Cristo de la Concordia ...
Bolivia's future ...
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
A few thoughts on my grey hair ...
For the most part, I love not seeing grey roots peeking out all the time and spending no time at all on hair upkeep. Every once in a while I'll walk past a mirror and see the white haired person standing where I'm supposed to be and think "what's Barbara Bush doing here?", but other than that, I'm used to it, and it feels kind of freeing in a way. When you get away from our high expectations for looking younger, thinner, and as perfect as possible, you find so many more important things to spend your time and energy on. And interestingly, I feel happier with myself and healthier than I have in many years.
The only annoying thing has been that whenever I step onto a crowded bus, men immediately try to give me their seat. It's like the parting of the Red Sea! I have become an old lady without the benefit of having grandchildren, which is utterly unfair. But since men in the US don't tend to be quite as accommodating as South American men, I suppose I should just relax and enjoy the ride.
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Lost in Patagonia ...
Patagonia is hard to capture in words or pictures. It is just exquisite; the Andean mountains, glacial lakes, trees in the midst of fall color, picturesque villages and very warm hearted people. We went to San Carlos de Bariloche, in the lakes district, and once there we liked the hostel we were staying in (Arko, where we had a very large clean room with a front desk staff who act as travel agents with advise and tour booking help) and area so much that we stayed through this week and then took another overnight bus all the way to Buenos Aires to catch our plane to Bolivia.
Bariloche was settled many years ago by Swiss immigrants, who must have felt at home in this paradise of snow capped mountains. They brought many of their traditions and skills, and there are many chocolate factories and stores in the area. We had a cup of hot chocolate that was unlike anything we have ever tasted; so add chocolate to the things we loved about Bariloche.
Pilar, Alberto and a cup of mate ...
So of course after all that mate, I had to use the bathroom in the little tea house at the top of the mountain, but they wouldn't let you in unless you bought a sky tram ticket, and you couldn't buy one way, you had to buy both ways; I was far too cheap to pay for that, so we walked the long way (about 9 k) back down the car road into Bariloche. Which was actually a lovely walk.
Preparing the Curanto
Pilar and Alberto also told us about the Curanto in what is called Colonia Suiza, or the Swiss Colony, on Wednesdays and Sundays, and advised us to take a bus there on Sunday. A Curanto is an earth-covered roasting of meats, chicken and vegetables which the Swiss settlers actually developed from Polynesians. We took a bus ride for about an hour to Colonia Suiza, paid our $12.50 each, and watched and enjoyed a beautiful day with Argentinean people. A fire is built until coals are very hot, then large river rocks are placed over the coals. More wood is piled on until the stones and coals are very hot; then the remaining sticks are removed and green branches of leaves are put on the stones. Chicken, lamb, beef, pork, and sausages are placed on the leaves, then potatoes and squash and whole apples and other vegetables, then more leaves and finally burlap. An Argentine flag was placed on the top layer of burlap, then one more layer of burlap, and the whole thing covered in dirt. It smoked for an hour and a half, then the bell was rung and everyone heard a patriotic speech by the cook (in Spanish, we didn't pick it all up) and the layers removed. It resulted in a perfectly cooked and delicious meal of roasted meats, potatoes, squash and apples. I still can't believe I ate something that at one point was covered with dirt.
Bariloche's 109th Anniversary Parade ...
We happened to be in Bariloche the weekend of their 109th Anniversary Celebration, so got to watch the parade and see the entire village come to el centro for local food and music. We were impressed that while every day care and preschool through primary school walked in the parade, the honor of being first to parade past the stand of dignitaries and cheering community were the handicapped children and their parents. There were no fancy floats needed to represent the priority of the good people of Bariloche: the children, their community's future, took center stage.
A warm welcome to a beautiful church ...
Another very special highlight of Bariloche was our visit to a little church the evening before the Curanto. We had been to Easter mass in Mendoza at a big cathedral the weekend before, and to be honest it was a very somber service and not at all what we are used to for Easter. So Pat found this little church when he was out taking pictures; it looks like it has been entirely hand carved of beautiful wood, and you had to hike up 71 steps (yes, I counted) to get there. The evening service was packed, and it is hard to describe the warmth and enthusiasm of the people there - many young people, kids in boy scout/girl scout uniforms, just a really friendly group of people. So when the sign of peace came, Pat and I gave each other a kiss and put our big American hands out to greet those around us, and realized too late that we were being offered a kiss on the cheek from the sweet teenage girl and older woman next to us ... which they withdrew when they saw our hands and just shook them. We were so ashamed. Everywhere, people kissing strangers as well as loved ones, and we shook their hands. It was over in a second, but we wanted to take the second back and try again, this time pretending we aren't from Minnesota, where you wouldn't want to do anything too familiar or call attention to yourself. The service was in Spanish, so we didn't get all of it, but we got the important part: when people care about one another, it shows. A very special evening. We found ourselves thinking about our friends at our own church, the Newman Center in St. Cloud, and the blessing they gave us as we left for our trip. We are so thankful to be a part of that faith community.
Adios a Bariloche ...
Thursday, May 5, 2011
Mendoza, Argentina
Mendoza is a beautiful city with wide, tree-lined streets and multiple spacious parks with fountains and statues. It was rebuilt this way after it was leveled by an earthquake in 1861. It still is at risk for further quakes and one of our guides mentioned that he even felt aftershocks in Mendoza after the major Chilean earthquake last year.
We learned the history of General San Martin who was governor of Mendoza. He led an army of 5,000 men over the Andes that defeated the Spanish and eventually won independence for Argentina, Chile, and Peru in 1816-1818. Which is why there is a very strong national pride here in Mendoza.
The area is actually more desert with over 300 sunny days per year. Only 10% of the land is inhabited, and only 3% cultivated. With a sophisticated aqueduct system from mountain streams and reservoirs, however, it is the 5th most productive wine region in the world as well as the 3rd most productive garlic region. Add grass fed beef to the equation and you have the makings of some pretty good eating ....yes, we have gone off the vegetarian kick for a couple of weeks.
Our days here were sunny, warm, early fall colors and brilliant blue skies. We spent one day on the wine tour with a fun group - Juan, our guide, and two couples from the USA - NYC and San Francisco. We had a great day together learning about and tasting the wines, and Tim from SF made points with Deb for his unabashed support of her favorite basketball team.
We attended Easter mass in downtown Mendoza and didn't notice the excitement and celebration of the day that we have felt in the US. It was probably the particular Cathedral and parish because Deb will describe a much different and warm experience we had in Bariloche.
We were grateful to celebrate the service as well as the beautiful day and spent the afternoon reading our books in Independencia park.
On Monday we were off to the Andes and learned more about the geology, history, and local animal population. It was also our first sighting of the Condor, Argentina's national bird. The rock formations with their multi-colored faces and the view of Cerro Aconcagua we're Incredible.
As we boarded the bus for Patagonia we have come to appreciate more the passion for living we have seen here in Argentina.
Saturday, April 30, 2011
We arrive in Argentina!
Buenos Aires is a very large city and we didn't see very much of it - we had planned to spend more time in Mendoza, where they make the best Malbecs in the world, and then Patagonia. The San Telmo area is an older part of the city, full of antique shops and quaint restaurants. We discovered Argentinean steak here ... it is amazing. Just can't describe the difference in taste of the beef here. Sad to say our months of eating a healthy vegetarian diet have flown out the window.
Pictured below are the "Pink House" - the government building made famous by the Perons, and some sights in "La Boca", an area famous for its artistry and for being the birthplace of the Tango. Restaurants there feature shows where dancers entertain you, and classes where you can learn the Tango. We decided our backs might not hold up to the Tango.